Sunday was a great day with church and Johnny had a birthday party at the park. I went to my Coda meeting(codependents anonymous) and two points hit home. One lady said how she hates teasing(sounds like my hubby), I have found that I grew up with a mom that teased me a lot..and the teasing actually got a little barbed, I think she used it to get her points across but it was almost mean..I find that I do that as well. Hubby tells me this and actually I have had another person say that as well. I am going to try to really work on thinking about what I am saying prior to saying it.
Point 2, its ok to be right and not say it...maybe I should phrase that another way...being right all the time is not always good. I find that I need to validate my worth by showing others I know what I am talking about..sometimes it comes across as bragging and then other times why can't I just listen without giving my two cents. So this week those are two items I am going to work on myself with. Listening more and not trying to always be right and limit the teasing.
Hope you all had a fabulous weekend!
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I, too, need to work on point no. 2. Thx for sharing!...you look great, BTW!
Great pic!
Those two things hit home for me in a big way, and I think has a lot to do with my defensiveness. I grew up with a lot of "pointed teasing" and I think I do it a lot too. I hate it! I am really interested reading all of this information...any good ideas where I could find out more?
That is pretty interesting. I have a bad habit of being super sarcastic, so I understand..
On the second point - that's something I think we all struggle with. Some to more of an extent to the other. My ex used to have the sarcastic nickname of "Actually", because no matter what we were talking about, he would interject with, "Actually, it's...blah blah blah". Also, I just re-watched an episode of The Office on Netflix ("China", Season 7 Episode 10) where they talk about Oscar doing this same exact thing.
It's a great thing to be aware of and to work on.
Oh, and gorgeous picture, lady! :)
Your hair looks really pretty!
I think it's great you had the insights in Coda and are working on those things. I seem to find things every day I need to work on, too! When my kids feel I correct them a lot (one of the things perhaps I need to work on, lol) I remind them I'm Wayyyyy older than they are, and look how much I still have to learn! Sometimes I think it would be nice if there was a magic age when we just got it "right" and didn't need to "fix" anything else about ourselves, but I'm trying to believe that would be boring...because I'm sure I'll never arrive at that point in this lifetime. :-)
No, I don't think it's worth it to always be right. There are so many times when I know I'm right about something but I just keep my thoughts to myself b/c in the end, it's not that big of a deal. Now if I knew I was right about something that was life-threatening or had earth shattering potential, then of course I would speak up! I just know when to pick my battles and not have to prove myself all the time!
love the new 'do!! you look great!
I can relate to both of your points too. I am sarcastic often. Love you picture! Looking great!
#1 - You look terrific!!!
#2 - Im guilty of teasing & I will work on stopping too
#3 - Not a problem I am usually wrong ;P
#4 - You look terrific!!!
Love the hair! I am totally guilty of both those things too
So guilty of # 2!
By the way, great post. A great reminder that I need.
Love the bangs.
Sandra
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